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Self-worth profits
client
It is said
that self-esteem is the amount of respect people
have for themselves. It is a sign of how people will behave in
different situations and lets others know what to expect in a
professional or personal relationship. Self-esteem gives a
message to others about how much a person values themselves, and
what they expect from others in terms of respect and fairness.
John (not his
real name), having resolved anger issues against his employer
noticed a positive difference in the way others in the office
associated with him. He felt good about managing his anger
issues. He went home at the end of the day feeling like he
done a good days' work, "I am unstoppable!" he would sometimes
say in a proud and confident way. His family and social
life improved attracting to him more and more positive things
such as invitations to parties and barbeques. He even
noticed an improvement in his sex life! "I suppose the
biggest change has been me realising that I am not a {derogatory
remark}."
John
describes battles with his inner critic as being a most
difficult task. "After all, its pretty hard to run away from
something in your head. No matter how fast you run, it's
right there with you, you can't outrun it, so you need some help
to do it daily, sometimes hourly but slowly and surely you'll
win".
This was a
great reflection - he felt he was someone, he was
recognising his self-worth.
John had overcome debilitating anger issues that affected him and
now he was working hard at improving his self-esteem.
After all, he was an intelligent person committed to being the
best he could be.
How was John's self-esteem
rebuilt? John worked hard building his
assertiveness skills both professionally and personally, setting
achievable goals, plans and strategies to get there. Mind
you, it wasn't an easy path for John, that self-critic of his
kept popping up its ugly head. He persisted and is now in
a better position than he was.
What help did John
get?
This was a mix of counselling and
life coaching. John worked hard developing a strong self-concept that depended as much on
what he could do, as his “idea” of himself. Primarily, it
depended upon two things. The first was about helping John think
in healthy ways about himself. The second was helping John
realise that he had the ability to make things happen, to
realise what he wanted and then go for
it; literally to create the life and environment he wanted.
John realised that feeling paralysed and helpless was
making him emotionally hungry and dissatisfied with
life. Action and goal-oriented change made him feel strong and
in control. John sometimes needs a bit of a booster from
time to time, as we all do from time to time, and is on the
whole now in control of his self-worth and has learned the
skills to keep himself in a positive state of mind. He is
the first to admit that maintaining positive self-esteem is a
continual process - one with great outcomes - and he has
acquired the tools and skills to allow this to happen.
Building your self-esteem is about your self-development.
Self-help tools that I use with clients are available for sale
to you if you wish to go it alone. Click
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Contact
Morgan Hayward about self-esteem and life-coaching on:
Within
Australia: telephone 02 4567 7719
Overseas
Callers: telephone +61 2 4567 7719
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